2 weeks ago, we lightly discussed how you can find clarity – but because the whole article was not about the topic, we only covered it broadly. The gist of it is that you should start by identifying what you like to do, what you’re passionate about and what you’re good at and then to try to find a balance within those three elements. But for this week, we’re going to try to get into the nit and grit of actually finding clarity. No worries – these steps are simple, easy to follow and most importantly: actionable. So here are the three things that you can do to find clarity:
1) Write. Write. Write.
We couldn’t emphasize this enough but writing your thoughts is an extremely beneficial practice. Assuming that you are beginning your clarity journey with tangled thoughts in your head (filled with confusion, worry and uncertainty), what putting your thoughts into words would do is to slowly untangle them. Seeing your thoughts in visual form allows you to oversee them clearly. You’ll see patterns forming up from cycles of thoughts, trace your train of thoughts and you’ll be able to work out problems much more easily. Important to note that the point is not to create good writing but about getting it all down on paper(warts and all). If you think that writing isn’t one of your fortes, that’s fine! just write away in a stream of consciousness style. It’s okay if you feel like it doesn’t make any sense – that’s the whole point of doing it.
If finding what you want is difficult, a useful alternative is to find out what you don’t want and work from there. Arguably, this is a much easier method because negative experiences in our life sometimes play a bigger role in shaping who we are and so they stick out more. For this method, recall situations or circumstances that diverts you from where you want to find yourself in. This doesn’t mean that you should cross out all experiences that you found to be unpleasant as those experiences usually build our character. And who’s to say that things won’t be unpleasant once you find clarity? What we mean by this method is to list paths or situations that you don’t want to grow in. For e.g. you have found that you don’t work best in teams. From there, it informs you that your clarity can be found in situations where you solely control the wheel. It’s hard to promise that you will instantly know what you want through this method but it is certainly an efficient method to get you closer there.
If you have an inkling of what you want to do but couldn’t pick a singular path (first of all: who said you can only choose one?!)What you can do is experiment! What does that mean? regardless of whether you are certain or not in your decision, begin by choosing a path, commit to it, give it your all and by the end, you can evaluate whether you want to continue or not. Let’s say you’re passionate about business; you can try setting up a small operation and give yourself 4-6 months to experiment. If it feels like you’ve found your true calling, that’s great! If it doesn’t work out, that’s also considered a win because you can tell yourself that you’ve given it a try and you can know for certain that doing business is not for you.